Posted by: trailerparkbarbie | June 21, 2007

How Stupid (Or Lazy) Can A Mother Be….Mother Tapes Pacifier To Infant’s Mouth


Published: Wednesday, June 20, 2007Tape holds in pacifier; infant dies
The infant’s mother taped a pacifier to his mouth before a nap and bound him in pajamas to calm him, the parents tell police.

By Jackson Holtz
Herald Writer

LAKE STEVENS – The mother of a 4-month-old boy found dead Monday told police she had taped a pacifier to the baby’s mouth before putting the infant down to sleep.

Bonnie Desmond, 19, said she woke up around 11 a.m. Monday and discovered her son, Noah James Petersen, had stopped breathing, according a police affidavit.

On Tuesday, Snohomish County deputy prosecutor Mark Roe charged Desmond with first-degree manslaughter. An Everett District Court judge ordered her held on $500,000 bail.

The child’s exact cause of death remains under investigation by the Snohomish County medical examiner.

The Lake Stevens woman called 911 about a half-hour after finding Noah unconscious, police said.

Rescue crews arrived but the child appeared blue, a sign he was dead, court documents said.

“The only thing I can think of is I taped the pacifier to keep it from falling out. I didn’t know it would hurt him, or I wouldn’t have done that,” police said Desmond told them.

Using anything to hold a pacifier in place in a child’s mouth can be dangerous, pediatricians said.

Desmond and the baby’s father, the woman’s fiance, 20, cooperated with police, Lake Stevens Police Cmdr. Dan Lorentzen said.

Desmond told police the boy’s arrival placed a strain on the couple’s finances and relationship, according to court papers.

On Monday morning, the father left for work without checking on the baby because he was “running late,” according to the documents.

Police do not plan to arrest the father, Lorentzen said.

A swaddling blanket had been used to calm the infant in the past, the father told police. He referred to the blanket as a “baby strait jacket,” court documents said.

On Sunday night, the mother apparently couldn’t find a swaddling blanket. Instead, she tied the infant’s arms close to his body using pajamas, the father told police.

Desmond told police she had fed the child peanut butter on Sunday. Police found peanut butter and a large soup spoon in the kitchen of the home.

Most pediatricians recommend waiting until a child is about 2 years old before feeding them peanut butter, said Dr. Agnes Wong, of the Children’s Clinic of South Snohomish County.

Many children have peanut allergies, she said. They also can choke.

Using tape or any other device to hold a bottle or pacifier in place in a child’s mouth is dangerous, said Dr. Carlos Villavicencio, pediatric medical director at Providence Everett Medical Center.

On Monday, police searched the boy’s home, a rental apartment in the 2600 block of Lake Drive. They seized baby clothes, adhesive tape and pacifiers, according a search warrant.

Roe said he expected Desmond to return to court today to argue for a reduction in bail.

If convicted as charged, Desmond could be sentenced to between 61/2 and 81/2 years in prison, Roe said.

A child’s death is always difficult, and it is especially hard when he is this young, Wong said.

“Any time any child dies it’s a tragedy, it’s devastating,” she said.

Herald writer Jim Haley contributed to this report.

The mother woke up around 11:00 a.m.????? How many mothers with infants get to sleep until 11 o’clock?

The mother gave the child peanut butter????? I really do not understand why God allows people like this to have kids. I know we are not suppose to question Him. But, in this case, I just can’t help but wonder.

She murdered this baby and the most she will get is 8 1/2 years????? Take off the “good behavior” time and she’ll be out in time to have more kids that she does not know how to take care of.

she tied the infant’s arms close to his body using pajamas, the father told police.”  Why on earth would anyone tie an infant’s arms to it’s body? What could a 4 month old boy possibly do to warrant this?

The father is not being charged in this case. OK….maybe, he wasn’t there when the child died. But, he knew about the infant’s arms being tied. And, let’s get serious here……the probability of this being the first time that she taped the pacifier to his mouth is really small. This father needs to be charged with being an accessory. If not to murder, then to child abuse.

This is so sad.


Responses

  1. First of all, she didn’t spoon feed the kid peanut butter. She put a little on the roof of his mouth in order to make the baby smile.

    The tape on the pacifier was a dumb move, but everyone is making it sound like she duct-taped the kid’s mouth shut. She didn’t. She put scotch tape on the top, like a mustache. It still had room to flip up and if anyone knows anything about scotch tape, it sucks. The second it gets wet, it falls off! I’m not saying that this was okay, it’s horrible, but everyone is making it sound way worse than it was.

    As for the “tying the baby up”…She used pajamas to swaddle him. I don’t know a parent who has never swaddled their baby. PJs wasn’t the best device to do so, but she couldn’t find anything else.

    Bonnie Desmond did not murder her baby!! She didn’t have the education about infants that she should have had. She loved that baby. No one in their right mind would murder their baby. It was an accident. She did not intend to hurt Noah at all.

    Her finace, Noah’s father, should not be charged with anything because he never abused his child. He loved Noah with all of his heart and was the best father that he knew how to be.

    Next time you’re with a baby who may or may not be your own, think about the fact that you could drop the baby and be sentenced to prison with a 500k dollar bail! Accidents happen!

  2. OK Marj

    1. If this was just an accident, why is she being charged?
    2. If the father loved that baby more than anything, as you say, wouldn’t he have at least peeked in on the baby no matter how late he was running?
    3. I do believe that she did not have the education that she needed in raising a baby. If you know these people (you write like you do), why didn’t SOMEBODY teach her?
    4. Yes, people are charged unfairly sometimes. But, don’t you think that a child with a pacifier taped to his mouth is being treated really unfairly, also?
    5. You are right. Accidents do happen. But, how does someone accidentally tape something to a child’s mouth?
    6. She was swaddling the baby with pj’s? If the baby needed swaddling that bad, why wasn’t she swaddling with her ARMS?
    7. I am a parent. I spent lots and lots of sleepless nights staying up with my children. And, I never got to sleep in till 11:00 either.

    If you can answer these questions with a reasonable position of authority, then maybe I’ll change my mind. But, I seriously doubt it. An innocent dead child is still dead.

  3. I thought it was an accident along but now that I read she taped just the top of the pacifier like a moustache I KNOW it was an accident. She got bailed out this week and will remain free till the outcome of the trail late this year or early next.
    Our prayers are with her and her family. God have mercy on her!

  4. Too many people playing God out there. Who died and made you judge? Yes, an innocent child died. But his parents loved him. We all give our babies little tastes of things here and there (mostly lemon). Most people are unaware of some of the dangers that certain foods pose to young children i.e., peanut butter, honey, etc. It’s not like she gave him a peanut to chew on. Nor did she give him a tablespoon of peanut butter. Just a small taste. Onto the swaddling. Most infants need to be swaddled for many months after birth. It provides a similar feeling to being in the womb (arms snug to baby’s side, etc.) To not swaddle a small infant can leave them feeling vulnerable and insecure. She swaddled him for comfort. What’s the difference in what type of cloth she used?? It’s not like she tied it around his neck. And as far as the father referring to it as a “baby straight jacket”, those who know him understand his sense of humor. If you have ever seen a swaddled infant, the blanket closely resembles a straight jacket (holding ones arms to sides = baby’s arms snug to sides). Moving on. How many of you ladies out there have husbands who are as involved with their children as Justin was with Noah? He loved his son with all his heart. I know that if myself or my husband are to leave while our children are still sleeping, we don’t dare disturb them. (I actually don’t know of a parent that would disturb their sleeping child if unnecessary). And that’s not out of hate or selfishness. That’s just silly to suggest that he is uninvolved because he didn’t pop his head in to check on Noah. Noah was the apple of his eye.
    Now as far as the tape goes. Lets review a colicky baby. There’s a cycle. Baby’s calm, less gas. Baby cries, inhales air, becomes gassy and is now in pain. Have you ever experienced painful gas? It hurts. And if there is one thing that calms baby, it just might be that pacifier. Most babies have a hard time mastering the skill of keeping the pacifier in. Call me and every other mother I know negligent if you must. But there are more moms than not out there that used something to keep binky in or bottle up. Tape is definitely not on my list. And I agree that it is unfortunate that there was not better parent education on this ONE MATTER.
    In conclusion, have you tried on Bonnie’s shoes? Don’t throw stones, they tend to ricochet.
    Without judgment, God Bless Justin and Bonnie. Peace be with baby Noah.

  5. Jane….I’m always ready to listen to the other side. That’s why I approved your comment. I will think about what you posted. Thanks for taking the time to present your thoughts.

  6. comments don’t matter when it is from people who don’t matter. Why don’t everyone stop wasting time on the websites and pray for baby Noah and his parents to get through this difficult time. There are no stupid people, just wrong decisions at wrong times. God bless.

  7. And why don’t people LIKE YOU quit sitting around and reading blogs?

  8. I love that quote…

    “How Stupid (Or Lazy) Can A Mother Be….Mother Tapes Pacifier To Infant’s Mouth”

    It is so true, is the most important aspect of creating a long term asset.

  9. Baby dies from SIDS. She just had another and CPS stole it from her at 3 days old. If there is a God he will give here baby back to her! She didn’t kill the last one!


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